I’m sorry I don’t feel too good at the moment ….my daughter died · Oh my god…what happened? · I have no idea!! I must not have been paying attention, I don’t know how I could have been so careless. · Was there an accident? · No, I don’t think so
After reading your and other gut wrenching articles on PITT, one question stands above all others. What are we going to do to save future children and families from this? I just finished an article detailing the stats. They are sobering. How do we wake society up? https://baybuddhatravels.com/2022/07/06/the-marketeers/
I feel so sad for you, dear Parent, and for all of us involved in this horrible cult. It is death that we have to deal with, indeed. Thank you for writing your story, it is so important for us to speak out. Please do take care of yourself. The journey seems so long, but we are together a community, fighting for our children and for the truth. Through no desire of mine, I am alienated from my 3 trans grandchildren, who are 26 to 33 years old. I saw a picture of my beloved granddaughter on social media the other day and did not know who it was at first. (She would be so angry with me, calling her by her "dead" name and using her birth pronouns.) She was once so lovely. Now, she is what? Someone I do not recognize. She is the mother of 3 children, my precious great grandchildren that she keeps from me. We helped raise her, and gladly took care of her children as well. When she was born, she lay so close to my heart, and as she grew, she was one of the most loving and sweet natured children I have ever met. Where is that dear baby, that tender little girl, that teenager that tried so hard, that young mother who mourned her babies that did not survive and who rejoiced when she got to keep those that did? Through all circumstances, she was bright, beautiful and brave. She endured verbal, physical and sexual abuse, abandonment, depression and anxiety as a child. Yet she always tried to be kind to her siblings, her family and friends, and had a deep love for animals, especially for baby creatures of all types. She succeeded at every avenue she tried, yet never felt she really mattered. Her Grandpa and I tried to tell her she was loved by the God of the Universe, and by us, that she counted. After her Grandpa died, it seemed our world fell apart, I know I fell apart. First one grandchild then another, went down the Trans Rabbit Hole. Why? What happened? Since she will not talk to me now, I can only speculate, and wonder. And pray. I can pray that the complete truth of what is happening comes into the open and this nightmare ends for all of us. And I will.
This message and all the others continue to fill me with a sense of doom and hopelessness. So many identical stories - words that have been pulled from my own mind and written by someone else. How is it that no-one ‘bigger’ than us can hear us? I feel sick inside if I listen to all of my questioning/doubting/ reminiscing. I too lost my daughter to the trans cult. She left for university, never said a word to us and ‘re-birthed’ as a guy. All the details of your story and so many are the same. I feel so weak being able to influence no-one and ‘getting on with my life’ feels like I have no choice. No space for truth, authenticity and love except for within the confines & boundaries of our ‘parents of trans’ community - no different to the ‘love’ the trans community share themselves within their own rainbow bubble. There’s no overlap so how will there ever be progress?
You point out something that doesn’t get enough attention, which is the painful reality that when your daughter is performing “Chase” (my daughter’s alter-ego and like yours’ too), she becomes completely insufferable: antisocial, unpleasant, entitled, and hostile to any whiff of humor. Never have I heard of a happy, funny, self-actualized Chase. Anybody? Maybe this can be the subject of Dr. Littman’s next study. Failing an effective deterrent, I just want to leave my zip code every time I see “Chase” lurking on the perimeter. (Sorry if that sounds unloving, but this is my safe space!)
Incredible to me how similar so many of our & our kids’ stories are. The grief and pain that we feel is as great as the love we have for our children, and the empathy from knowing that so many other children and parents are also going through this is just so painful. What an awful and incredible burden to bear. I wish you all the best of strength, resolve, and, of course, success(!!) in overcoming this awful situation for your children and all of the children in our village.
Oh my goodness. It’s as if I could have written this word for word myself. I want to send this to my daughter so badly but I know it will fall on deaf ears. I too have chosen to let go of the control. I wish so much that I could shake them out of it. I wish I had taken away the internet when this first came about. I wish so much I could turn back time if I only knew then what I know now. I am sorry that this is your reality. It is mine as well I am with you!
Thanks for writing this important piece. I can relate as I’ve also lost my daughter. I hope things change in the world before we lose more young people and before more families are wrecked. We always have hope and in the meantime we must take care of ourselves❤️
Thanks for writing this important piece. I can relate as I’ve also lost my daughter. I hope things change in the world before we lose more young people and before more families are wrecked. We always have hope and in the meantime we must take care of ourselves❤️
"I have to stop trying to fix or control what happens...after all its their life, not mine. I have to take care of me which means I have to try to find some peace in spite of the things that my child decides to do." Wise words. Modeling how to take responsibility for our own quality of experience and how to move through life with some grace is our best bet right now. This doesn't have to wreck us--in fact, we can use this experience to heal ourselves and our relationships. Thank you for recognizing the importance of taking care of yourself! Learning how to reframe this circumstance so that you can grow through it can make a world of difference in your quality of life. Humans are resilient beings with an amazing capacity to overcome suffering. "I have to stop letting this dominate my life and accept the things I can't change." Amen.
I feel your pain deeply as your story is also mine. The only thing we seem to have left is hope. We can't turn to anyone. Doctors, schools, therapist all sing the same song and all participate in killing our daughters a little faster. I hope our daughters will come back.
Heartbreaking. I am sad for you, for the loss of your daughter. I am grieving with you. We all are. Your story is very similar to my family members situation - they are losing a son, a smart, talented, handsome boy who thinks he will be happier to become a girl. Lies. All lies! I hate the whole trans world. My heart is heavy for all the parents who are losing a child by trans ideology - mourn your child, let go, and move on with your own life. I will continue to pray and ask God to have mercy, give us the strength and courage we need to survive.
Thank you for your passionate and spot on writing. I used to work with Alzheimer's patients and their families. Your essay reminded me so much of what the children and spouses of the dementia patients felt...they call it the long goodbye. What we are all going through feels so much the same. I hope the cure for our children and Alzheimer's is out there and that it is found soon.
I can completely relate to this. It’s like an entity has invaded their body and everything that they once were is no longer there. My daughter left because she wanted me to rewrite my history. Using her new name wasn’t enough, nothing was enough. The sparkle that she always had in her eyes is gone, and now she’s just a blank soulless looking creature that I no longer recognise. I miss my daughter so much too.
Thank you so much for expressing my pain and thoughts in words.
Beautiful summary.
After reading your and other gut wrenching articles on PITT, one question stands above all others. What are we going to do to save future children and families from this? I just finished an article detailing the stats. They are sobering. How do we wake society up? https://baybuddhatravels.com/2022/07/06/the-marketeers/
What a horrible situation. Have you run across Dr Miriam Grossman in your research. This is an excellent article she wrote on the parent's perspective. It might be worth contacting her.https://thefederalist.com/2021/11/11/therapists-have-betrayed-the-parents-of-gender-confused-kids-and-therell-be-hell-to-pay/
I feel so sad for you, dear Parent, and for all of us involved in this horrible cult. It is death that we have to deal with, indeed. Thank you for writing your story, it is so important for us to speak out. Please do take care of yourself. The journey seems so long, but we are together a community, fighting for our children and for the truth. Through no desire of mine, I am alienated from my 3 trans grandchildren, who are 26 to 33 years old. I saw a picture of my beloved granddaughter on social media the other day and did not know who it was at first. (She would be so angry with me, calling her by her "dead" name and using her birth pronouns.) She was once so lovely. Now, she is what? Someone I do not recognize. She is the mother of 3 children, my precious great grandchildren that she keeps from me. We helped raise her, and gladly took care of her children as well. When she was born, she lay so close to my heart, and as she grew, she was one of the most loving and sweet natured children I have ever met. Where is that dear baby, that tender little girl, that teenager that tried so hard, that young mother who mourned her babies that did not survive and who rejoiced when she got to keep those that did? Through all circumstances, she was bright, beautiful and brave. She endured verbal, physical and sexual abuse, abandonment, depression and anxiety as a child. Yet she always tried to be kind to her siblings, her family and friends, and had a deep love for animals, especially for baby creatures of all types. She succeeded at every avenue she tried, yet never felt she really mattered. Her Grandpa and I tried to tell her she was loved by the God of the Universe, and by us, that she counted. After her Grandpa died, it seemed our world fell apart, I know I fell apart. First one grandchild then another, went down the Trans Rabbit Hole. Why? What happened? Since she will not talk to me now, I can only speculate, and wonder. And pray. I can pray that the complete truth of what is happening comes into the open and this nightmare ends for all of us. And I will.
This message and all the others continue to fill me with a sense of doom and hopelessness. So many identical stories - words that have been pulled from my own mind and written by someone else. How is it that no-one ‘bigger’ than us can hear us? I feel sick inside if I listen to all of my questioning/doubting/ reminiscing. I too lost my daughter to the trans cult. She left for university, never said a word to us and ‘re-birthed’ as a guy. All the details of your story and so many are the same. I feel so weak being able to influence no-one and ‘getting on with my life’ feels like I have no choice. No space for truth, authenticity and love except for within the confines & boundaries of our ‘parents of trans’ community - no different to the ‘love’ the trans community share themselves within their own rainbow bubble. There’s no overlap so how will there ever be progress?
You point out something that doesn’t get enough attention, which is the painful reality that when your daughter is performing “Chase” (my daughter’s alter-ego and like yours’ too), she becomes completely insufferable: antisocial, unpleasant, entitled, and hostile to any whiff of humor. Never have I heard of a happy, funny, self-actualized Chase. Anybody? Maybe this can be the subject of Dr. Littman’s next study. Failing an effective deterrent, I just want to leave my zip code every time I see “Chase” lurking on the perimeter. (Sorry if that sounds unloving, but this is my safe space!)
Incredible to me how similar so many of our & our kids’ stories are. The grief and pain that we feel is as great as the love we have for our children, and the empathy from knowing that so many other children and parents are also going through this is just so painful. What an awful and incredible burden to bear. I wish you all the best of strength, resolve, and, of course, success(!!) in overcoming this awful situation for your children and all of the children in our village.
Oh my goodness. It’s as if I could have written this word for word myself. I want to send this to my daughter so badly but I know it will fall on deaf ears. I too have chosen to let go of the control. I wish so much that I could shake them out of it. I wish I had taken away the internet when this first came about. I wish so much I could turn back time if I only knew then what I know now. I am sorry that this is your reality. It is mine as well I am with you!
Thanks for writing this important piece. I can relate as I’ve also lost my daughter. I hope things change in the world before we lose more young people and before more families are wrecked. We always have hope and in the meantime we must take care of ourselves❤️
Thanks for writing this important piece. I can relate as I’ve also lost my daughter. I hope things change in the world before we lose more young people and before more families are wrecked. We always have hope and in the meantime we must take care of ourselves❤️
"I have to stop trying to fix or control what happens...after all its their life, not mine. I have to take care of me which means I have to try to find some peace in spite of the things that my child decides to do." Wise words. Modeling how to take responsibility for our own quality of experience and how to move through life with some grace is our best bet right now. This doesn't have to wreck us--in fact, we can use this experience to heal ourselves and our relationships. Thank you for recognizing the importance of taking care of yourself! Learning how to reframe this circumstance so that you can grow through it can make a world of difference in your quality of life. Humans are resilient beings with an amazing capacity to overcome suffering. "I have to stop letting this dominate my life and accept the things I can't change." Amen.
I feel your pain deeply as your story is also mine. The only thing we seem to have left is hope. We can't turn to anyone. Doctors, schools, therapist all sing the same song and all participate in killing our daughters a little faster. I hope our daughters will come back.
I have never trusted the "advocates" of the kink trade.
Heartbreaking. I am sad for you, for the loss of your daughter. I am grieving with you. We all are. Your story is very similar to my family members situation - they are losing a son, a smart, talented, handsome boy who thinks he will be happier to become a girl. Lies. All lies! I hate the whole trans world. My heart is heavy for all the parents who are losing a child by trans ideology - mourn your child, let go, and move on with your own life. I will continue to pray and ask God to have mercy, give us the strength and courage we need to survive.
Thank you for your passionate and spot on writing. I used to work with Alzheimer's patients and their families. Your essay reminded me so much of what the children and spouses of the dementia patients felt...they call it the long goodbye. What we are all going through feels so much the same. I hope the cure for our children and Alzheimer's is out there and that it is found soon.
I can completely relate to this. It’s like an entity has invaded their body and everything that they once were is no longer there. My daughter left because she wanted me to rewrite my history. Using her new name wasn’t enough, nothing was enough. The sparkle that she always had in her eyes is gone, and now she’s just a blank soulless looking creature that I no longer recognise. I miss my daughter so much too.