If you are new to the crazy world of gender, you’ve heard that trans is something you just know. So, if your kid comes out as trans, that’s who they are, who they’ve always been. You just somehow missed the obvious. And now that you are aware you have a trans kid, your job is to help them “become” the sex that they are inside through social changes (pronouns, clothing choices), drugs (hormones) to halt their development and develop alternate secondary sex characteristics to the extent possible, restrictive garments that hide their secondary sex characteristics (binders), and cosmetic surgeries.
While I agree that parents should never fall for the lie that you must affirm or your child will kill themself, if your child tells your they are suicidal, get them help. It doesn’t have to be hormones or affirmation of anything like that. I’ve struggled with dysphoria my whole life and while I never plan to transition, I have thought attempted suicide multiple times. Everytime I’ve gone for crisis treatment, I wasn’t given hormones. When I was a teen, a friend of mines parents refused to get her any help because they worried that any therapist might immediately put her on testosterone. They told her she was lying and manipulating them. She passed away a month later. Please please please get your kids some sort of help. Even if the therapist is like “yes you really are the opposite sex” that’s temporary damage that can be undone. Please please please help them. My friends parent’s didn’t and my parents won’t.
A 60-second visit to Reddit's r/detrans site will disabuse anyone of the fantasy that trans identity is permanent. The (mostly) young people of both sexes who populate this subreddit grapple with the painful reality that everything they believed about their trans identity turned out to be a lie, something they had been taught to believe. They may still experience what they describe as "gender dysphoria," but now they're able to connect it to real-world issues and fears, such as sexual abuse early in life, fear of sexuality, internalized notions of homophobia and misogyny, mental health issues, being on the autism spectrum, and/or lingering concerns that they'll never be able to make a normal life for themselves as a non gender-conforming person.
To make matters worse, they're often viewed as transphobic bigots by their former trans friends and lovers, who see them as traitors, so they're isolated and lonely. However, it's inspiring to see their resiliency, as they pick up the pieces, counsel one another, and move forward.
It is a cult that captures the young (who are naive). All of our formerly trusted institutions gas light the kids - creating mental/emotional separation from parents at the time of teen rebellion/identity formation. It is grooming.
I once thought that the drive was that some AGP middle aged men did not want to have psychological assessments prior to receiving hormones and surgeries but now I think that it is another frontier of affirmation for them. The mental illness appears to involve an itch that can never be scratched enough. It is not enough to "transition" oneself, change all reasonable language, enter beauty contests, be seen running for governor weeping in a dress, enter lesbian spaces, get attention for competing in women's and girl's sporting competitions - one must insist that all of society embrace a belief system that affirms these men Really Are Female (not just transwomen or women). The itch must also require the vicarious experience of seeing children and teens "be trans" and get surgeries. When I read what some of these gender surgeons (AGPS themselves) wrote about performing the surgeries, including what the fake organs smelled like - I got the creepy vibe that they derived pleasure from it.
Then, there is all the money being made off of the young in Big Pharma, etc.
I think society will not right itself until we can all honestly agree that this is a mental illness not an Identity - one that has always existed in a small portion of the population - as have so many other mental illnesses. Many people struggle with some mental illness or other and are assisted to live productive lives. This population can do that as well with more honest, individual assessments. Who knows, maybe "transition" is the best of bad choices for a number of them. But, please drop the ideology and leave the children alone.
While I agree that parents should never fall for the lie that you must affirm or your child will kill themself, if your child tells your they are suicidal, get them help. It doesn’t have to be hormones or affirmation of anything like that. I’ve struggled with dysphoria my whole life and while I never plan to transition, I have thought attempted suicide multiple times. Everytime I’ve gone for crisis treatment, I wasn’t given hormones. When I was a teen, a friend of mines parents refused to get her any help because they worried that any therapist might immediately put her on testosterone. They told her she was lying and manipulating them. She passed away a month later. Please please please get your kids some sort of help. Even if the therapist is like “yes you really are the opposite sex” that’s temporary damage that can be undone. Please please please help them. My friends parent’s didn’t and my parents won’t.
Do you have a link for those studies? Thx
A 60-second visit to Reddit's r/detrans site will disabuse anyone of the fantasy that trans identity is permanent. The (mostly) young people of both sexes who populate this subreddit grapple with the painful reality that everything they believed about their trans identity turned out to be a lie, something they had been taught to believe. They may still experience what they describe as "gender dysphoria," but now they're able to connect it to real-world issues and fears, such as sexual abuse early in life, fear of sexuality, internalized notions of homophobia and misogyny, mental health issues, being on the autism spectrum, and/or lingering concerns that they'll never be able to make a normal life for themselves as a non gender-conforming person.
To make matters worse, they're often viewed as transphobic bigots by their former trans friends and lovers, who see them as traitors, so they're isolated and lonely. However, it's inspiring to see their resiliency, as they pick up the pieces, counsel one another, and move forward.
It is a cult that captures the young (who are naive). All of our formerly trusted institutions gas light the kids - creating mental/emotional separation from parents at the time of teen rebellion/identity formation. It is grooming.
I once thought that the drive was that some AGP middle aged men did not want to have psychological assessments prior to receiving hormones and surgeries but now I think that it is another frontier of affirmation for them. The mental illness appears to involve an itch that can never be scratched enough. It is not enough to "transition" oneself, change all reasonable language, enter beauty contests, be seen running for governor weeping in a dress, enter lesbian spaces, get attention for competing in women's and girl's sporting competitions - one must insist that all of society embrace a belief system that affirms these men Really Are Female (not just transwomen or women). The itch must also require the vicarious experience of seeing children and teens "be trans" and get surgeries. When I read what some of these gender surgeons (AGPS themselves) wrote about performing the surgeries, including what the fake organs smelled like - I got the creepy vibe that they derived pleasure from it.
Then, there is all the money being made off of the young in Big Pharma, etc.
I think society will not right itself until we can all honestly agree that this is a mental illness not an Identity - one that has always existed in a small portion of the population - as have so many other mental illnesses. Many people struggle with some mental illness or other and are assisted to live productive lives. This population can do that as well with more honest, individual assessments. Who knows, maybe "transition" is the best of bad choices for a number of them. But, please drop the ideology and leave the children alone.
A kid who comes out as “trans” has been brainwashed by a myth