I have two adult children who identified as trans just before the age of thirty, four years apart in age, so I’m familiar first hand with this ideology. I feel like both political parties are using this phenomenon to gaslight the public in America into voting one was or the other. I’m sick of both parties. The Dems are afraid to differentiate real trans health issues from the radical ideology, and the Reps have become fascists. Both are a danger to the people of our country. I think there are several root causes for this, as there are several different groups that could benefit from this mess. I hope we can stop the gender madness without causing other problems.
If anyone here has questions about "why my child would do this" feel free to reach out to me. I have some experience with this kind of thing and might be able to help.
This is not a new phrase. Adult children of parents diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder were using this phrase at least a decade ago (and used "NC" for short), although many did so to describe only periods of taking breaks from communication (typically used to try to heal from trauma) rather than severing the relationship altogether. It was common to see sentiments like "no matter what, this person is still my parent".
Like much else in the gender movement, "no contact", too, was co-opted from elsewhere.
Our consciousness is so limited, that we think it is all that matters, when we have a certain opinion about someone who claims something in the moment, forgetting that there is a context far beyond their small scope. A thing is convenient, an entire ecosystem is too complex to be swallowed, yet it is the truth in which we live, just as a teenager is a child that belongs to a father and mother who would give their life for it. Not you. You just want a kick.
I still can’t believe it. That child I gave my heart and soul to. My life began when he was born-maybe too much pressure for a child but the sun rose and set in his eyes for me. Now, I am meaningless to him. I simply do not exist.
It has truly nearly killed me, but yet, I still breathe...barely.
Heart bleeds for you, I also had a period of no contact from my child, who is now apparently back ! but on their terms, I feel blackmailed - I hav touse the new name etc... or they self harm & threten to go living nightime...... how did all us loving parents get to this ?
My child also went no contact, a couple of weeks after high school graduation. It feels to me like she committed suicide. Sure, she is alive somewhere but not to us. Not to her family. To every living relative, she is as good as dead and she did this. Like a suicide.
Except she could change her mind. If she actually committed suicide there would be no coming back. Still, unless and until that happens, I'm angry. How could she do this! The social contagion she fell victim to was a problem but I never stopped loving her. I never stopped planning to pay for college. I never gave her any ultimatums to desist with the cult. I didn't approve of it but that is not the same as saying, "Get out." She acted like she was not welcome. More than that, she acted as if we wanted her dead.
We miss her so much. We would have and still would, do anything for her that a loving, very extended family would do. She threw that all away.
Heartbreaking to read stories like yours. Hopefully there will be some accountability for those who propagated this nonsense and ruined countless lives of both children and parents.
I think we know where Randy came from. I suppose this means we will be seeing more of his type of “help.”
This from an article I was sent today:
The Biden administration’s Health and Human Services (HHS) department is offering up to $1.7 million in grants to groups that promote family “acceptance” of LGBT youths.
Groups can get up to $425,000 a year for programs that “reduce rejection” of LGBT youth by their families and connect families to counseling in order to increase their acceptance.
This must be the most painful thing of all -- I really feel for you. I know other parents who are living the "no contact" or "total estrangement" experience, but in our support group there is a sort of guiding idea: that they know we love them, and it is very possible that once they have finished maturing and have discovered that transition is not the answer they thought it was, it is possible they will turn back to us. In the meantime, we have each other, we have prayer, and we just keep on loving them from afar. Thank you for writing this -- it speaks for many of us.
I have two adult children who identified as trans just before the age of thirty, four years apart in age, so I’m familiar first hand with this ideology. I feel like both political parties are using this phenomenon to gaslight the public in America into voting one was or the other. I’m sick of both parties. The Dems are afraid to differentiate real trans health issues from the radical ideology, and the Reps have become fascists. Both are a danger to the people of our country. I think there are several root causes for this, as there are several different groups that could benefit from this mess. I hope we can stop the gender madness without causing other problems.
If anyone here has questions about "why my child would do this" feel free to reach out to me. I have some experience with this kind of thing and might be able to help.
I will never give up hope.
Thank you
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This is not a new phrase. Adult children of parents diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder were using this phrase at least a decade ago (and used "NC" for short), although many did so to describe only periods of taking breaks from communication (typically used to try to heal from trauma) rather than severing the relationship altogether. It was common to see sentiments like "no matter what, this person is still my parent".
Like much else in the gender movement, "no contact", too, was co-opted from elsewhere.
But at the same time, our children are individuals with their own unique perspective and that is a fact too.
Our consciousness is so limited, that we think it is all that matters, when we have a certain opinion about someone who claims something in the moment, forgetting that there is a context far beyond their small scope. A thing is convenient, an entire ecosystem is too complex to be swallowed, yet it is the truth in which we live, just as a teenager is a child that belongs to a father and mother who would give their life for it. Not you. You just want a kick.
They nevertheless know their child since birth, every, single, day.
I still can’t believe it. That child I gave my heart and soul to. My life began when he was born-maybe too much pressure for a child but the sun rose and set in his eyes for me. Now, I am meaningless to him. I simply do not exist.
It has truly nearly killed me, but yet, I still breathe...barely.
Anime has unleashed nothing but harm to vulnerable young people-I was SOOOO naive!
Heart bleeds for you, I also had a period of no contact from my child, who is now apparently back ! but on their terms, I feel blackmailed - I hav touse the new name etc... or they self harm & threten to go living nightime...... how did all us loving parents get to this ?
My child also went no contact, a couple of weeks after high school graduation. It feels to me like she committed suicide. Sure, she is alive somewhere but not to us. Not to her family. To every living relative, she is as good as dead and she did this. Like a suicide.
Except she could change her mind. If she actually committed suicide there would be no coming back. Still, unless and until that happens, I'm angry. How could she do this! The social contagion she fell victim to was a problem but I never stopped loving her. I never stopped planning to pay for college. I never gave her any ultimatums to desist with the cult. I didn't approve of it but that is not the same as saying, "Get out." She acted like she was not welcome. More than that, she acted as if we wanted her dead.
We miss her so much. We would have and still would, do anything for her that a loving, very extended family would do. She threw that all away.
Heartbreaking to read stories like yours. Hopefully there will be some accountability for those who propagated this nonsense and ruined countless lives of both children and parents.
I think we know where Randy came from. I suppose this means we will be seeing more of his type of “help.”
This from an article I was sent today:
The Biden administration’s Health and Human Services (HHS) department is offering up to $1.7 million in grants to groups that promote family “acceptance” of LGBT youths.
Groups can get up to $425,000 a year for programs that “reduce rejection” of LGBT youth by their families and connect families to counseling in order to increase their acceptance.
This must be the most painful thing of all -- I really feel for you. I know other parents who are living the "no contact" or "total estrangement" experience, but in our support group there is a sort of guiding idea: that they know we love them, and it is very possible that once they have finished maturing and have discovered that transition is not the answer they thought it was, it is possible they will turn back to us. In the meantime, we have each other, we have prayer, and we just keep on loving them from afar. Thank you for writing this -- it speaks for many of us.
It's a CULT and needs to be called out at every turn. Spread the word far and wide: These young people are NOT DYSPHORIC. They are INDOCTRINATED.