Persistence. Determination. Perseverance. All good traits. But what is their value when they are used in the service of a harmful, cult-like ideology? My 22-year-old daughter is trans-identifying. She has been on “T” for three years. Her story is much like many we have all read on this site. She was a very feminine girl, precocious, riven by anxiety, a desire to “fit in” and be part of a large friend group. She was (and is) whip smart. In middle school she set her sights on being admitted to her dream university. She worked towards that goal for years and was successful. She was over the moon when she received her acceptance notification.
Another very sad story. Another child stolen. I am heavy hearted for you, your daughter, your family. However, your hope and positive attitude is to be applauded - clearly your love for your daughter is stronger than the false hopes of the “T”cult influence. I pray that she will return to you soon as your daughter and realize the lies she believed. Best wishes!
Stories like this have transformed my politics from center right to knuckle dragging reactionary who would cheer the arrival of a Pinochet, Salazar, or Franco in power. I have already told my shitlib family members that they will be PERMANENTLY cut off from having any contact with my daughter if they so much as whisper anything about this poisonous gender ideology.
Sounds similar except my son is mtf, had surgery (makes me sick) without my knowledge. Finished Bachelors , full ride to Law School but is blowing it off. I went to visit him in Tuscon. Mentally, these drugs have worked a number on him
I hope your daughter will turn around before any surgeries. Keep on being you!
This breaks my heart. How many young women have to be harmed to bring attention to this very real affliction. When the detrans reddit group hits 50k? 100k? 500k? How many does it take? Why don't their voices matter. I ask myself this question every day.
Much like my 23 year old, doctors fail to diagnose health problems that are side effects of testosterone and other medications to treat depression, balding, acne and whatever next I dread to think. Latest excuse was that the low white blood cell count was “genetic” and as the tests for HIV and hepatitis are negative, there is no further action. The health services are not designed to prescribe wrong hormones. It is unethical to ignore consequences.
I appreciate how your article along with other PITT articles and comments help me make sense of the unimaginable. It's difficult to wrap my mind around what is happening because the horror of the trans train ambushing our children is unnatural on every level. My son is being harmed at college with Planned Parenthood dishing out HRT like candy. It's an everyday challenge to not let this evil cult poison my whole being with rage and sorrow while wrong sex hormones and all aspects of this cult poison my son. It's heartbreaking that my son is on the Titanic and refuses a life boat. Perhaps he will help himself some day if this madness abates or he somehow matures and faces his real issues in realistic ways.
Are you me? The only difference is that my daughter managed to complete her degree, after which she completely cut off her “transphobic” parents. Why? We had the outrageous boldness to suggest that, hey, maybe this sudden new obsession won’t fix all your problems?
I feel your pain!!! I have an incredibly stubborn daughter as well. Luckily she hasn’t gone on Testosterone so far. Luckily she doesn’t go to college. Sad, I feel lucky about that. But, she dropped out of high school, mostly due to other health issues, but being trans didn’t help her in any way, only gave her acceptance into a trans cult community and by friends who think it’s cool. Sad, sad, sad.
This is so painful! God what are these kids doing to themselves??
I dropped my daughter off a her summer class twice last week, and each time I saw a different trans identified girl- both of them short, chubby and bearded. And both obviously female despite the beards and boys clothes.
Keep on hanging in there- I truly believe we are nearing a critical point where this peaks and it will become very unfashionable to be trans.
I was horrified as well as pained to read your daughter 's tragic demise. Naively I tended to believe that very bright kids emerged from the trend unscathed. But your account, and the comments below send a chill through me. I have such a motivated, balanced, driven son and I imagine with horror what could have happened to him. This occurring to my middle child is devastating enough, but then I could see it come our way because she's always latched aimlessly onto fashions and habits, in part due to insecurity had it not been trans it could so easily have been drugs.
The determination of which you speak is such an intense thread in our kids' stories that it erases all other aspects of personality, differences. A cult is addictive and anyone can fall prey to it,
This is a wonderfully written essay and I admire your strength and courage. I sincerely wish you and your family the best outcome. As do you, I find this whole issue very disconcerting. It is now so wrapped up in politics, egos, activism, money (e.g., physicians and clinics), and academic jargon that it's going to continue for some time, I'm afraid. We've seen this happen with other biological/psychological controversies. While the chattering classes talk about statistics, bicker over the nuances of psychological categories, and argue over the meanings of words, something very wrong is going on (particularly in academia). When slick websites unabashedly advertise procedures such as gender nullification, and that's deemed to be an acceptable solution to a psychological issue, it feels as if we've regressed to an era in which trepanning and lobotomies were thought to be reasonable medical procedures. This is dire. But, courageous parents like you give me hope.
Another very sad story. Another child stolen. I am heavy hearted for you, your daughter, your family. However, your hope and positive attitude is to be applauded - clearly your love for your daughter is stronger than the false hopes of the “T”cult influence. I pray that she will return to you soon as your daughter and realize the lies she believed. Best wishes!
Stories like this have transformed my politics from center right to knuckle dragging reactionary who would cheer the arrival of a Pinochet, Salazar, or Franco in power. I have already told my shitlib family members that they will be PERMANENTLY cut off from having any contact with my daughter if they so much as whisper anything about this poisonous gender ideology.
My heart goes out to you, lady.
Sounds similar except my son is mtf, had surgery (makes me sick) without my knowledge. Finished Bachelors , full ride to Law School but is blowing it off. I went to visit him in Tuscon. Mentally, these drugs have worked a number on him
I hope your daughter will turn around before any surgeries. Keep on being you!
Obviously she had problems and she needed help, but once she latches on to the trans thing, no medical professional will see anything else.
I’m so so sorry to hear this. This is my greatest fear.
This breaks my heart. How many young women have to be harmed to bring attention to this very real affliction. When the detrans reddit group hits 50k? 100k? 500k? How many does it take? Why don't their voices matter. I ask myself this question every day.
Much like my 23 year old, doctors fail to diagnose health problems that are side effects of testosterone and other medications to treat depression, balding, acne and whatever next I dread to think. Latest excuse was that the low white blood cell count was “genetic” and as the tests for HIV and hepatitis are negative, there is no further action. The health services are not designed to prescribe wrong hormones. It is unethical to ignore consequences.
I appreciate how your article along with other PITT articles and comments help me make sense of the unimaginable. It's difficult to wrap my mind around what is happening because the horror of the trans train ambushing our children is unnatural on every level. My son is being harmed at college with Planned Parenthood dishing out HRT like candy. It's an everyday challenge to not let this evil cult poison my whole being with rage and sorrow while wrong sex hormones and all aspects of this cult poison my son. It's heartbreaking that my son is on the Titanic and refuses a life boat. Perhaps he will help himself some day if this madness abates or he somehow matures and faces his real issues in realistic ways.
Have you read Helena's story: https://lacroicsz.substack.com/p/by-any-other-name
There are clues in it which might help you as a parent.
It is so terrible that universities actively harm them. Often the most "elite" universities brag about being at the forefront of harm.
Are you me? The only difference is that my daughter managed to complete her degree, after which she completely cut off her “transphobic” parents. Why? We had the outrageous boldness to suggest that, hey, maybe this sudden new obsession won’t fix all your problems?
I feel your pain!!! I have an incredibly stubborn daughter as well. Luckily she hasn’t gone on Testosterone so far. Luckily she doesn’t go to college. Sad, I feel lucky about that. But, she dropped out of high school, mostly due to other health issues, but being trans didn’t help her in any way, only gave her acceptance into a trans cult community and by friends who think it’s cool. Sad, sad, sad.
This is so painful! God what are these kids doing to themselves??
I dropped my daughter off a her summer class twice last week, and each time I saw a different trans identified girl- both of them short, chubby and bearded. And both obviously female despite the beards and boys clothes.
Keep on hanging in there- I truly believe we are nearing a critical point where this peaks and it will become very unfashionable to be trans.
I was horrified as well as pained to read your daughter 's tragic demise. Naively I tended to believe that very bright kids emerged from the trend unscathed. But your account, and the comments below send a chill through me. I have such a motivated, balanced, driven son and I imagine with horror what could have happened to him. This occurring to my middle child is devastating enough, but then I could see it come our way because she's always latched aimlessly onto fashions and habits, in part due to insecurity had it not been trans it could so easily have been drugs.
The determination of which you speak is such an intense thread in our kids' stories that it erases all other aspects of personality, differences. A cult is addictive and anyone can fall prey to it,
as your daughter's story illustrates tragically.
She persists, but so do you x
This is a wonderfully written essay and I admire your strength and courage. I sincerely wish you and your family the best outcome. As do you, I find this whole issue very disconcerting. It is now so wrapped up in politics, egos, activism, money (e.g., physicians and clinics), and academic jargon that it's going to continue for some time, I'm afraid. We've seen this happen with other biological/psychological controversies. While the chattering classes talk about statistics, bicker over the nuances of psychological categories, and argue over the meanings of words, something very wrong is going on (particularly in academia). When slick websites unabashedly advertise procedures such as gender nullification, and that's deemed to be an acceptable solution to a psychological issue, it feels as if we've regressed to an era in which trepanning and lobotomies were thought to be reasonable medical procedures. This is dire. But, courageous parents like you give me hope.