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Great piece of writing. My heart breaks for these men. Please if anyone knows any stories on females who have reversed, I am all ears. I pray each day that my daughter will return to me. Thank you.

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My heart broke hearing how the ‘toxic masculinity’ narrative has had a role in shattering these young men’s sense of worth as human beings and as men at such a critical time. For boys becoming men, healthy male relationships and mentoring is so critical. Gay men are no less ‘male’ and have an even deeper need to be engaged in emotionally healthy and platonic friendship and mentorship.

Dads, you gotta step up. Your sons need you and your presence, emotionally and physically. They need to know that you, the most important man in their life, that you see them, know them, and believe in their ability to be heroes in their own fashion.

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So the goal of the trans movement is to rid the world of cis white people. Make the children feel guilty because they are a white toxic male who will prey on women and minorities or a weak, oppressed female who will be preyed upon by men. I'm so livid this is happening but thankful for these courageous people who are speaking out! This has to stop!

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Is it possible to say “some radical feminists” instead of “the radical feminists?” Just like men aren’t a monolith, neither are feminists. It would be more accurate and less inflammatory. Thanks.

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So much that is so helpful to hear. You have no idea.

Thank you so much!!!!

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Everyone who writes here knocks it out of the park… true trailblazers. You are recording the history of viruses, memes, the dark side of technology, cult-takeover-at-a-distance, psychology and sociology, as it unfolds. I feel and share your despair and rage, and am grateful for your eloquence, analysis and intelligence.

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This is an extraordinary piece of scholarship and journalism. It deserves to be shared widely. Have you considered pitching it to Quillette? They do great work on this topic; their series by Angus Fox ("When Sons Become Daughters") was terrific. And even if you don't want to reveal your identity, Benjamin Boyce on YouTube would interview you while protecting your privacy. He covers this topic on an ongoing basis.

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Grazie grazie grazie

Molto interessante

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What an incredible contribution to PITT's library of support for families! It's so important to recognize our culture's veneration of victimhood and who that serves. I appreciate the range of responses from parents that demonstrates how little control we actually have over our children's experience--that the best we can do is to remain curious and in connection; modeling what we want for our children; learning to accept that their journey will be painful but the beauty, courage, and wisdom that emerges from that agony can give us hope for our own children who we can't protect from Life.

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Thank you for sharing.

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Thank you Rick, Tyler, Andy, Nate, Max, and all the others out there telling THE Truth.

We've had more than enough of "My Truth." There is Truth, we find it together and we need to talk, not scream, in order to do that. Men, you give me strength.

PITT, Any way we can ask follow-up questions?

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In the current climate where the toxic feminist are putting down “ white cis men” and toxic masculinity “ and probably loving this new transgender movement where men and boys are castrated, this article personifies that we still have...strong men in our society who are standing up and saying “ NO”! We will not be your victims or pawns! Bravo!Welcome back , men. This woman loves and supports you.

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"We know our sons to be good" = we can't handle the thought of our sons being fetishists who invade women's spaces.

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What a fascination article.

What strikes me most, apart from the bizarre convoluted discourses of TRA, is the relative simplicity, at least in principle, of the first moves towards detransition: allowing for critical reflection on the “feelings” of being trans and finding therapists who will enable this; and as one put it “standing on the grass” getting out and away from the internet, escaping the web of false narratives in the virtual world and breathing in the air of the real.

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I want to thank all the detransitionersand welcome everyone welcome back to our material reality.

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Fascinating! And quite hopeful as the mother myself of one who's deeply in the cult right now. And SO much, as you say, what nobody else wants to hear: he is not an evil fetishist invader but a struggling lost soul who thinks he's finally found the magic right answer to all his pain.

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