“I’ll love you forever, I’ll like you for always, As long as I’m living My baby you’ll be.” When my children were young, I would read to them Robert Munsch’s book “Love You Forever” The first page of the book shows a picture of a young mom rocking her baby and singing a song to him as he falls asleep. As the child grows up, the mom continues rocking her child as she sings the song of her lifelong love and devotion to him.
I too raised our daughters reading this book and singing the song to them at bedtime. Our older daughter has gone from bi to “truly queer” in the last year. I’ve been preparing myself for her to fall victim to the ideology as an ally (she has always been easily influenced and a pleaser) but was unprepared for a declaration of “truly queer.” Loving without affirming or enabling has become the hardest aspect of parenting in today’s cultural revolution.
I will pray for your son as I pray for my daughter❤️
Yes, so true this article, what "game theory" is being played out here? As a parent I feel check mated, that I have no move to make, other than affirm or not. My daughter in response to a text of "Happy Thanksgiving we love and miss you" sent us a song she wrote and performed which was bashing us for not affirming her gender to a boy and how great she is doing! Yes daughter I will love you forever, you are always welcome home no matter what, we are not your enemies, we changed your diapers, nursed you to health when sick and when you broke your arm, taught you to read, ride a bike, sing, play piano, do math, and so much more. You expect us to forget all that and imagine you were a boy while doing all that? You can fool strangers and people for a while but eventually truth comes out. Why would you want your parents to go along with this lie? What a painful terrible idea all this is, no one is born in the wrong body! Change your mind! Not your body! What rubbish!!!
Much of this article is a testament to the Woke power over language, its capacity to manipulate meaning and its ability to cut off argument at the knees without having to lead an argument, using prejudicial categorizing and heresy stereotypes instead.
Once one becomes aware of how the game is played, it becomes much easier to deal with effectively.
The game attempts to cut off critical capacity to tell the difference between
'discrimination' and critical discernment,
'humanity' and species narcissism,
'dignity' and caricature,
‘rights’ and consumer entitlement,
'inclusion' and opportunistic colonization/hostile takeover,
‘humanistic compassion’ and an indiscriminate soft touch,
‘freedom’ and disinhibited life without boundaries,
‘authoritarianism’ and firmness,
‘justice’ and sectional interest,
'fairness', special pleading and excuse making,
‘tolerance’ and indulgence,
‘respect’ and unjustified regard,
'prejudice' and ideas/values 'we' don't like,
‘compromise’ and being compromised,
'flexibility’ and weakness,
‘concern for ‘the value of human life’ anpd cowardice,
‘dissent’ and treason,
‘repression’ and discipline,
‘assault’ and chastisement,
‘abuse’ and toughness,
'violence' and the legitimate use of force.
‘disadvantage’ and dysfunctional willfulness,
‘individualism’ and egoistic narcissism,
‘disempowerment’ and passive fecklessness,
‘impoverishment’ and a frugal life,
'misfortune' and inconsequential thinking,
'judgmentality' and the ordinary exercise of judgement
‘Love’ and lust/eroticism,
'gender' and biological sex
‘sexuality’ and sexistentialist fantasizing (I am my fantasies)
'vilification' and principled criticism (vacant denial of agenda)
'phobia' and " " " "
'sexual alternativism’ and sexual error/corruption, parody, infantilism and/or cruelty.
‘Equality’ and creative equivalencing that legitimizes reward for the incompetent, promotion of the unqualified, penalizing the industrious, and in the name of equality, exploiting the unequal (especially the young) by getting them to compete as ‘equals’ out of their league against stronger players who control the rules of the game against them.
OK, that is enough, but I am sure you think of others. Whenever someone hits you with one of the above words inside inverted commas on the left, shoot straight back with the verbal reset that puts you in control of the discourse.
As an estranged daughter (for good reasons - two police forces counselled this step to protect my little girls), i am so sorry that the useful conversation about ways to survive abusive behaviour has been misappropriated and used against you. Praying for you and your son tonight, and for lifelong, warm relationship to return.
I am on my way to visit my son now, after a year long strained relationship. When he had one blow after another, joblessness, a car accident, divorce and now homelessness, we stayed in touch throughout by text, even superficially, which was painful..
About 3 months ago in all of his distress he told me, "Mom, I have to tell you something. The queer community says if your parents don't affirm you, it means that they don't love you and to cut them off. But I know you and Dad love me." His words.
I have no pretense that if I said the wrong thing that he could take back to his community that could be construed as offensive, we would be out too. Estranged. It's a difficult line to walk, one of alternating fear and courage.
Keep sending those texts. We are here for the long haul. The word 'always' in "always you'll be" doesn't end. And I completely agree that when he wakes up from the delusion and lies, we will be the ones still here, to walk alongside him while he heals. Always. Keep going mom. You're doing the right thing.
this one really broke me :( I'm so very sorry for what you're all going through. I pray your baby boy comes home soon, as with all the estranged and non-estranged children who are still at home, but not.
You're a much better parent than I'd ever be. I'd probably just write the kid off as a loss and move on with my life. I'd let him back in if he ever decided to get a grip on reality, but until then there would be no way I'd let him wreck my life over some ridiculous delusion.
Trans activists love to talk about "basic human decency". Respect and sympathy for your own parents, THAT's "basic human decency" ( using every clown's preferred pronouns is just conformity, nothing to do with decency).
Well said! Thank you for sharing. You’re not alone. We must stand together and stay strong. It’s a war! And our kids are the casualties! Unforgivable! I will not give up. Never ever.
Perhaps the most egregious aspect of gender ideology is it’s demonization of loving parents. Next to that is the useful idiot parents who contribute to it. I cannot wrap my brain around being so unsympathetic.
Gender nonsense is a satanic ideology pushed by communists who see the dissolution of the family as a necessary step in the instantiation of their hellish "utopia." It should be stamped out in brutal and decisive fashion.
I am so sorry you and your family are going through this. Many of us are working to open discussions of what is going on and address the harms being done by the ideology of which you speak.
I hope you won't mind if I remind you that while it (the ideology) is being pushed by the left, many of us "progressives" are on the same page as you when it comes to the medicalization of children, the loss of protected spaces for women, the distortion of biology, and so forth.
And I feel we have a better chance of succeeding in helping others see this for what it is by sticking together, despite some differences in our political and religious beliefs.
This is so sad and I agree with you about contemporary culture being ever ready to blame parents. I am estranged from my daughter (7 years) although it ha nothing to do with trans ideology. It is the most painful thing. Like you, I send messages but get no reply.
Brilliant writing on such a poignant and germane topic to the modern world. My daughter is 12 and believes she is or rather, can be, trans. She's asked me to call her a boy's name and I refuse to do so. She has moody fits about her desire to start puberty blockers. I would never allow this and it's illegal in my state for under 18 anyway. I've taken to calling her "kiddo" just to avoid the nasty looks when I use her real name. I'm praying she snaps out of this within a year or two. She was always a girly girl with princesses and dresses and girly toys. There's just no way she is actually trans. She cut her hair short and immediately wanted to grow it back out again. She's just gotten into this internet subculture and been brainwashed by these lunatics. I am confident one day she'll be thanking me for refusing to follow along with her childish ideas, but I still worry. I worry about her taking dangerous medications and destroying her body with needless surgeries when she's 18. If that's the road she chooses she will do it under another roof. I cannot abide by this debased and sick fad. We will look back on this as mass psychosis one day, if society regains its bearings. I fear it may not.
So well written. Our 24 yo is still exploring this and doesn't want anyone to know. Just us. But when she asked us if in a couple of years with a good therapist she still feels the same, will we support her then, I'm at a loss for words.
Beautiful.
I too raised our daughters reading this book and singing the song to them at bedtime. Our older daughter has gone from bi to “truly queer” in the last year. I’ve been preparing myself for her to fall victim to the ideology as an ally (she has always been easily influenced and a pleaser) but was unprepared for a declaration of “truly queer.” Loving without affirming or enabling has become the hardest aspect of parenting in today’s cultural revolution.
I will pray for your son as I pray for my daughter❤️
Yes, so true this article, what "game theory" is being played out here? As a parent I feel check mated, that I have no move to make, other than affirm or not. My daughter in response to a text of "Happy Thanksgiving we love and miss you" sent us a song she wrote and performed which was bashing us for not affirming her gender to a boy and how great she is doing! Yes daughter I will love you forever, you are always welcome home no matter what, we are not your enemies, we changed your diapers, nursed you to health when sick and when you broke your arm, taught you to read, ride a bike, sing, play piano, do math, and so much more. You expect us to forget all that and imagine you were a boy while doing all that? You can fool strangers and people for a while but eventually truth comes out. Why would you want your parents to go along with this lie? What a painful terrible idea all this is, no one is born in the wrong body! Change your mind! Not your body! What rubbish!!!
Much of this article is a testament to the Woke power over language, its capacity to manipulate meaning and its ability to cut off argument at the knees without having to lead an argument, using prejudicial categorizing and heresy stereotypes instead.
Once one becomes aware of how the game is played, it becomes much easier to deal with effectively.
The game attempts to cut off critical capacity to tell the difference between
'discrimination' and critical discernment,
'humanity' and species narcissism,
'dignity' and caricature,
‘rights’ and consumer entitlement,
'inclusion' and opportunistic colonization/hostile takeover,
‘humanistic compassion’ and an indiscriminate soft touch,
‘freedom’ and disinhibited life without boundaries,
‘authoritarianism’ and firmness,
‘justice’ and sectional interest,
'fairness', special pleading and excuse making,
‘tolerance’ and indulgence,
‘respect’ and unjustified regard,
'prejudice' and ideas/values 'we' don't like,
‘compromise’ and being compromised,
'flexibility’ and weakness,
‘concern for ‘the value of human life’ anpd cowardice,
‘dissent’ and treason,
‘repression’ and discipline,
‘assault’ and chastisement,
‘abuse’ and toughness,
'violence' and the legitimate use of force.
‘disadvantage’ and dysfunctional willfulness,
‘individualism’ and egoistic narcissism,
‘disempowerment’ and passive fecklessness,
‘impoverishment’ and a frugal life,
'misfortune' and inconsequential thinking,
'judgmentality' and the ordinary exercise of judgement
‘Love’ and lust/eroticism,
'gender' and biological sex
‘sexuality’ and sexistentialist fantasizing (I am my fantasies)
'vilification' and principled criticism (vacant denial of agenda)
'phobia' and " " " "
'sexual alternativism’ and sexual error/corruption, parody, infantilism and/or cruelty.
‘Equality’ and creative equivalencing that legitimizes reward for the incompetent, promotion of the unqualified, penalizing the industrious, and in the name of equality, exploiting the unequal (especially the young) by getting them to compete as ‘equals’ out of their league against stronger players who control the rules of the game against them.
OK, that is enough, but I am sure you think of others. Whenever someone hits you with one of the above words inside inverted commas on the left, shoot straight back with the verbal reset that puts you in control of the discourse.
Best of luck
As an estranged daughter (for good reasons - two police forces counselled this step to protect my little girls), i am so sorry that the useful conversation about ways to survive abusive behaviour has been misappropriated and used against you. Praying for you and your son tonight, and for lifelong, warm relationship to return.
I am on my way to visit my son now, after a year long strained relationship. When he had one blow after another, joblessness, a car accident, divorce and now homelessness, we stayed in touch throughout by text, even superficially, which was painful..
About 3 months ago in all of his distress he told me, "Mom, I have to tell you something. The queer community says if your parents don't affirm you, it means that they don't love you and to cut them off. But I know you and Dad love me." His words.
I have no pretense that if I said the wrong thing that he could take back to his community that could be construed as offensive, we would be out too. Estranged. It's a difficult line to walk, one of alternating fear and courage.
Keep sending those texts. We are here for the long haul. The word 'always' in "always you'll be" doesn't end. And I completely agree that when he wakes up from the delusion and lies, we will be the ones still here, to walk alongside him while he heals. Always. Keep going mom. You're doing the right thing.
this one really broke me :( I'm so very sorry for what you're all going through. I pray your baby boy comes home soon, as with all the estranged and non-estranged children who are still at home, but not.
You're a much better parent than I'd ever be. I'd probably just write the kid off as a loss and move on with my life. I'd let him back in if he ever decided to get a grip on reality, but until then there would be no way I'd let him wreck my life over some ridiculous delusion.
Trans activists love to talk about "basic human decency". Respect and sympathy for your own parents, THAT's "basic human decency" ( using every clown's preferred pronouns is just conformity, nothing to do with decency).
Well said! Thank you for sharing. You’re not alone. We must stand together and stay strong. It’s a war! And our kids are the casualties! Unforgivable! I will not give up. Never ever.
Perhaps the most egregious aspect of gender ideology is it’s demonization of loving parents. Next to that is the useful idiot parents who contribute to it. I cannot wrap my brain around being so unsympathetic.
Gender nonsense is a satanic ideology pushed by communists who see the dissolution of the family as a necessary step in the instantiation of their hellish "utopia." It should be stamped out in brutal and decisive fashion.
I am so sorry you and your family are going through this. Many of us are working to open discussions of what is going on and address the harms being done by the ideology of which you speak.
I hope you won't mind if I remind you that while it (the ideology) is being pushed by the left, many of us "progressives" are on the same page as you when it comes to the medicalization of children, the loss of protected spaces for women, the distortion of biology, and so forth.
And I feel we have a better chance of succeeding in helping others see this for what it is by sticking together, despite some differences in our political and religious beliefs.
I want you to know I am with you, Mom.
This is so sad and I agree with you about contemporary culture being ever ready to blame parents. I am estranged from my daughter (7 years) although it ha nothing to do with trans ideology. It is the most painful thing. Like you, I send messages but get no reply.
Brilliant writing on such a poignant and germane topic to the modern world. My daughter is 12 and believes she is or rather, can be, trans. She's asked me to call her a boy's name and I refuse to do so. She has moody fits about her desire to start puberty blockers. I would never allow this and it's illegal in my state for under 18 anyway. I've taken to calling her "kiddo" just to avoid the nasty looks when I use her real name. I'm praying she snaps out of this within a year or two. She was always a girly girl with princesses and dresses and girly toys. There's just no way she is actually trans. She cut her hair short and immediately wanted to grow it back out again. She's just gotten into this internet subculture and been brainwashed by these lunatics. I am confident one day she'll be thanking me for refusing to follow along with her childish ideas, but I still worry. I worry about her taking dangerous medications and destroying her body with needless surgeries when she's 18. If that's the road she chooses she will do it under another roof. I cannot abide by this debased and sick fad. We will look back on this as mass psychosis one day, if society regains its bearings. I fear it may not.
So well written. Our 24 yo is still exploring this and doesn't want anyone to know. Just us. But when she asked us if in a couple of years with a good therapist she still feels the same, will we support her then, I'm at a loss for words.