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This letter is a powerful statement from a loving mothers heart. Thank you.

One day loving fathers will make powerful statements from their hearts too.

Those statements will not be tearful. They will be outwardly directed. They will be angry, violent, vengeful.

And their targets, who created and promoted this evil cult, will deserve every bit of it.

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Seeing, hearing, and reading the tragic desperation coming from so many parents who have been blind-sided by The Cult and its destructive effects on their children and families just makes me thankful I decided never to have children, and am only watching this disaster from a distance.

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Bravo Momma Bear! I know that was a difficult letter to write to your daughter and I hope she is able to read it with an open mind. I pray she will re-read it over and over again and allow your love to open her eyes. It is not your fault. Even if you had hovered over her, monitored the internet, kept her at home… the lurking cult is waiting. Teachers, therapists and physicians are grooming our children to fall into the ideology trap. Be strong and continue your fight - we know the truth and we are not giving up! The tide is changing!

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Dearest Mom, thank you for the most honest and loving letter a parent could write to a beloved child. You give me the courage to write to my dear grandchildren. It is never too late to tell the truth. I will never stop praying for an end to the madness of this insane cult. My prayer for you and your daughter is that she hears you. If she doesn't right now, you have done the very best that you can, by saying reality, in the midst of a world full of lies, and have laid the groundwork so badly needed right here and right now. May our loving God help us all to be as truthful and brave. Love, Indio

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Very good letter. Thanks for sharing.

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I want to thank you for your bravery and your writing. You inspired me to have a very real conversation with my 18 year old daughter yesterday about her struggle with her identity and the trickle down effect. It’s been over a year since she announced that she wants to be seen as a gay boy. We’ve had conversations in the past, so this was not the first go-around. It was a conversation I was nervous to have but overall I think it went well, even if all it was, was planting seeds. I’m learning, over time, to present myself with compassionate confidence, finding the opportunity for a conversation, being mindful of my words, my physical presence and using silent moments to allow for her to process. I brought into the conversation the story of The Emperor’s New Clothes, which caused a moment of silence and pause to the conversation. I ended by telling her that “I hear that you are struggling. Sometimes it’s in the struggle that we learn the most important things about ourselves. I do think it’s ok and normal to explore the feelings and ideas you’ve been experiencing without putting yourself in a box by declaring a new identity, making any significant changes including name changes and pronoun changes (I really think this first step is the gateway to medicalization). Dad and I love you and want you to have a healthy life. I will not lie to you, you are not a boy.”

Now, we wait and see. This is a journey none of us thought we would be in, but here we are. I’m so grateful for this opportunity be able to share and support our journeys in this very scary narcissistic cult of the transgender movement that is inline with CRT/DEI/SEL. We are bombarded at every turn, being gaslit and demonized for simply caring for our kids and asking questions! I will not stop and I will never give up on my sweet girl! I will die on that hill. Godspeed.

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Well done Mom. Respect. So sorry for your pain and your daughter's pain. Sending much hope that this will somehow create a bridge... really wishing that for both of you.

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I would love to know if the author actually gave this letter to her daughter and what the reaction was. Praying that it made a difference. I've considered doing something very similar to this when my daughter heads off to college next year. It's beautifully written and the whole thing resonates with me.

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Thank you for your bravery. I will pray for you and you family as this must be difficult to deal with. My daughter believes that this "movement" is healthy and normal. She is a product of the liberal-indoctrinating NYC public school system and I regret ever placing her within it. I didn't know any better as a young mother. Again I will pray for your family and know that you are not alone.

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My heart goes out to you. Thank you so much for posting. I hope that your daughter finds this letter of love. Reads it. Takes it in and is ready to hear.

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ME TOO,🌹😭😭😭

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Jan 21, 2023·edited Jan 21, 2023

I love your letter - and would love to borrow it, but alas, my atheist ex has made sure that our wanna be ftm 19 yo daughter, who lives with him and his now new wife (his 4th), does not believe in God, so anything - anything - that mentions “God” or “prayer” or religion of any sort, will be looked down on and they will snidely snicker and laugh at the “ignorance” of the writer.

I don’t feel that way, so if I sent a really wonderfully written message like yours, they would also laugh at me, call me transphobic, a TERF, and I would be further ostracized from my daughter.

Nonetheless, I still think your efforts will be helpful to a lot of people.

Thank you for sharing your letter.

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I love this.

My heart breaks when I see the destruction gender ideology brings. Destruction to the people who destroy their bodies. Destruction to any future possibility to becoming parents. And destruction to the families and loved ones who don't know what to do. It is terrifying to think that one wrong word will turn the person you love away forever. I am dealing with this regarding my own sister who has decided she is trans. It is just a nightmare.

But what I always think about is this. If nobody ever stands for and states the truth, then nobody will be able to find it. If my sister is going to accept the truth about herself and her body, she has to be told what the truth is. Truth hidden and kept silent remains forever darkened and out of sight.

This was one of the most compassionate stands for truth that I have read. It shows what love really is. I pray that your daughter responds. I also believe that sometimes turning back to reality takes a long time. But even if it is years in the future, the only way she can turn back to reality is if someone lovingly but boldly proclaims the truth.

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"Like" isn't nearly enough LOVE.

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Amen.

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I feel your pain. The trouble is - not matter how much you tell your child the truth, they will not believe. How is it, I ask myself that kids, like my son, can be convinced of this claptrap that is being served up to them. It's impossible to change sex. Nothing anyone does with hormones or surgery can change that. Patients for life. And yet if you have the temerity to mention this you are castigated as a transphobe. It's a conundrum that haunts me. It's what my academically gifted son believes.

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