Written by the father of a daughter who was sold a solution to a problem that she doesn’t have. Well, I guess that it is time for me to come out of the closet. It is time to come out to the world and to celebrate me. I identify as …a Good Father. My pronouns are dad, daddy, and father, but (my condition being what it is) I only allow a select few to use them.
Frankly, I thought I was a barely adequate mother until a few years ago. I loved my kids, volunteered with the PTA, took my kids to every park I could find, supported their hobbies, enjoyed their company, and played with them as much as possible when I wasn't working or cleaning the apt. But there was nothing special about those things. Most of the mothers I knew did those things, and some did them much better than me because they were more successful in their careers, better at arts and crafts, better cooks, better at getting their kids to bed, didn't let their kids watch as much tv as I did, etc. Thus, I was a mediocre mother. Then, my daughter came to me and told me that she was "really a boy." From that day forward, I knew I was a "Good Mother." I knew because I initially went with my gut and immediately assured my daughter that all was well, I was not at all upset with her revelation, and I would just love her no matter what. Then, and here's where the "Good Mother" identity really kicked in, I did my research. I delved into gender ideology and studied and researched and wrote and listened better than I studied for the Bar Exam - and I found out about Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria, and I found out what was really happening in society vis-a-vis gender ideology. And you know what I did? I did not affirm. I told my daughter the truth. Yes, I love her and always will, but, no, she is not "really a boy" because there is no such thing. There are some adults who have chosen to live as if they were the opposite sex, and to sacrifice their health to a lesser or greater extent to live that way. Some of those adults are happy with their choice, and some are not. But nobody is born in the wrong body, and nobody MUST chemically and/or surgically alter their appearance to be their true authentic self, and no child or teenager can make those difficult choices or should be in a position to do so. By sticking to those truths, informing my daughter that I will protect her health for as long as possible, giving her as much time as possible to accept the body she was born with and celebrate her healthy body, I became a truly Good Mother. I believe the parents at PITT are all Good Mothers and Good Fathers looking to protect and love their children. This is our identity and we're sticking to it.
Good Father Dysphoria - a marked incongruence between actual parenting quality, and the quality reported by trans-identified children. Seems like I have GFD too!
I did not see this coming. We can’t be held accountable for this madness. No parent can unless he or she gives in and even then it’s under insidious manipulation and the terror of this needs to be acknowledged and we need help in a society claiming mental health is a priority as the lurking powers cause the crisis. We are the product and our children are the prey. We’re surrounded.
You deserve a pride month of celebrations, not one day, a cookout and a card! Fathers made people and raised them. Their accomplishments are merit based. Bravo!
Exactly! Way to go, Dad! I feel you except from a Mom's identity. My pronouns are Mom/Nana.
I, too, have been brutally oppressed by social constructs that deny my identity. I realize society still shuns us and is quite prejudiced of our identities. We must fight for our rights, too! I propose we create a Parent's Flag and fly it high! Let all society see that we count, too! Let us support each other until some laws are in place for the Dad & Mom Rights!
Good for you! In addition to changing diapers, Good Fathers also refuse to enable dysfunction.
Frankly, I thought I was a barely adequate mother until a few years ago. I loved my kids, volunteered with the PTA, took my kids to every park I could find, supported their hobbies, enjoyed their company, and played with them as much as possible when I wasn't working or cleaning the apt. But there was nothing special about those things. Most of the mothers I knew did those things, and some did them much better than me because they were more successful in their careers, better at arts and crafts, better cooks, better at getting their kids to bed, didn't let their kids watch as much tv as I did, etc. Thus, I was a mediocre mother. Then, my daughter came to me and told me that she was "really a boy." From that day forward, I knew I was a "Good Mother." I knew because I initially went with my gut and immediately assured my daughter that all was well, I was not at all upset with her revelation, and I would just love her no matter what. Then, and here's where the "Good Mother" identity really kicked in, I did my research. I delved into gender ideology and studied and researched and wrote and listened better than I studied for the Bar Exam - and I found out about Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria, and I found out what was really happening in society vis-a-vis gender ideology. And you know what I did? I did not affirm. I told my daughter the truth. Yes, I love her and always will, but, no, she is not "really a boy" because there is no such thing. There are some adults who have chosen to live as if they were the opposite sex, and to sacrifice their health to a lesser or greater extent to live that way. Some of those adults are happy with their choice, and some are not. But nobody is born in the wrong body, and nobody MUST chemically and/or surgically alter their appearance to be their true authentic self, and no child or teenager can make those difficult choices or should be in a position to do so. By sticking to those truths, informing my daughter that I will protect her health for as long as possible, giving her as much time as possible to accept the body she was born with and celebrate her healthy body, I became a truly Good Mother. I believe the parents at PITT are all Good Mothers and Good Fathers looking to protect and love their children. This is our identity and we're sticking to it.
This is awesome! 👏🏻
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I love this! Made my day and was dying reading this 🤣
Good Father Dysphoria - a marked incongruence between actual parenting quality, and the quality reported by trans-identified children. Seems like I have GFD too!
Thank you for lifting the mood a little. I needed that :)
I did not see this coming. We can’t be held accountable for this madness. No parent can unless he or she gives in and even then it’s under insidious manipulation and the terror of this needs to be acknowledged and we need help in a society claiming mental health is a priority as the lurking powers cause the crisis. We are the product and our children are the prey. We’re surrounded.
As a single mom, I wish all Fathers are like you. Be proud of your identity!
YES!!! You be you, you're true self! Our community is here for you. (loved your piece)
Love it!💗
As a former stay-at-home dad who raised three children, I applaud you!
You deserve a pride month of celebrations, not one day, a cookout and a card! Fathers made people and raised them. Their accomplishments are merit based. Bravo!
Exactly! Way to go, Dad! I feel you except from a Mom's identity. My pronouns are Mom/Nana.
I, too, have been brutally oppressed by social constructs that deny my identity. I realize society still shuns us and is quite prejudiced of our identities. We must fight for our rights, too! I propose we create a Parent's Flag and fly it high! Let all society see that we count, too! Let us support each other until some laws are in place for the Dad & Mom Rights!