I have a warning for parents. My daughter, age 16, was able to obtain gel testosterone on-line from a store in the UK, shipped to the U.S. She used her cash - saved from the bat mitzvah she begged for - to pay for it. Let me back up. I’m Jewish by heritage, but totally unreligious, and my husband is a lapsed Catholic. Together we decided early on that our children would be raised without religion. We like some cultural things, so we celebrate Chanukah and Christmas by playing good music, eating good food, playing fun games, buying presents, and my husband insists on a tree. That’s the sum and substance of our foray into Judaism and Catholicism. My son was just fine with that, and always told his friends “I’m Jewish and Catholic and I’m not religious.” My daughter, on the other hand, really wanted to go to Hebrew School. Some of her cousins went, and some of her friends went, and it looked like fun. She was also curious about it. She begged and begged for two years, until I finally relented. She liked Hebrew School and excelled at learning to read Hebrew. She even taught me the Alef Bet (Hebrew alphabet). By the time she was 12, she didn’t believe in any of the teachings, but she still enjoyed it and really wanted a big bat mitzvah celebration - something else I had no interest in. It seemed like a big waste of money, I’m not that social, and I definitely was not a believer in this type of rite of passage, but again, she really wanted it.