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What a wonderfully good and supportive sister, unlike the sister of mine whose idea of being supportive involved communicating with my daughter but not me. My daughter asked why my sister was “supporting” her but I was not. The definition of “support” in the transgender world seems to be affirmation of delusion.

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Hi, I wanted to explain why I prioritize finding a way to keep your gender questioning teen at home. I live in a West coast city in the US that all sorts of outsiders flock to, thinking they'll get free housing, free hormones & transition help, and it just ain't so. They end up living on the street because they won't conform to shelter rules. They're emotional & confused and if they have any propensity toward mental illness, they will "break". It's a downward spiral that frequently leads to drugs, assault, and or sex work. If you can possibly find a way to vent to a therapist while being being calm & firm with your teen, by which I mean, insisting they get a job, help around the house, get real therapy not just a session to prescribe hormones-- then, hopefully, you can guide them to a productive, self sustaining life. Yelling at them, telling them they aren't trans doesn't work. You're doing the same thing people did 40 years ago when they threw their kids out for being gay.

For insight & support, check out Reddit forums r/detrans, r/actual_detrans, and r/honest transgender. They won't let you post rants, but you can politely ask questions if you clear it with the mods. Take care. I'm rooting for hormone free childhoods.

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Dear lovelies, there is so much distress around trans issues, maybe we should get outside & ground ourselves in nature. Even in cities, you can take off your shoes, walk in the grass, and look at birds. Love to you all.

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It is essential that EVERYONE Has to speak up

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So sry this government endorsed corporate sponsored harmful tragedy of a religion has hit innocent individuals seeking identity and those who care about em. How could it not? xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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Having personal experience with the trans cult really brings the problem into sharp focus. It was difficult for me to have a solid opinion until I saw a case with someone I really knew and cared for.

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I so appreciate all of the caring and horrified PITT authors and the editors.

I no longer respect the people we formerly considered "experts" or "learned":

Does anyone else recall revering places like Yale University? No more....

"The Most Passionate Science Deniers Are Pro-Trans ‘Experts’ Who Profit From Carving Up Kids"

https://thefederalist.com/2022/11/29/the-most-passionate-science-deniers-are-pro-trans-experts-who-profit-from-carving-up-kids/

"The transgender movement has a science problem. Trans activists and their allies are trying to silence their critics by accusing them of “science denialism,” but they are inadvertently illustrating the anti-science nature of transgender dogmas. For example, a recent opinion piece in the New England Journal of Medicine (NEJM) — titled “Protecting Transgender Health and Challenging Science Denialism in Policy” actually demonstrates that rejecting transgender ideology is the best way to protect health and defend scientific integrity.

Of course, the authors, a couple of Yale professors plus a student, set out to prove the opposite."

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Happy to receive a list of psychologists and psychiatrists who do not automatically affirm self diagnosis. We tried and could not find any.

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I have only told two people. My son has only shared his wish to be a girl with online friends and immediate family. If he wants to tell grandma & Grandpa, aunts and uncles, he needs to do it. I am not about to help and make it easy for him. It is a heart ache and struggle that I would not wish on anyone.

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This reflects with the danger my son is treading in... i am helpless not knowing how to help him get out of this..

All are talking about this issue. I am unable to find a true genuine therapist who can help talk to him out of this

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This post really touched me. I ache for more support from my extended family. My brother supports me; he finds it ridiculous that my now 24 y/o son thinks he's a girl, takes cross-sex hormones and has all-but-estranged himself from us. My parents support me. If they didn't I would crumble. So, I can tell you with 100% certainty that your support of your sister means a lot to her and her husband. However none of my sisters-in-law, brothers-in-law or my in-laws support my husband and me. It's as if the political rhetoric has stunted their ability to think critically. (And, ironically, they are NOT uber-liberal). Or they are just going along. Or, simply glad it's not happening to them.

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And your nephew may be using women's spaces. That's a hard thing to come to terms with when it's a boy you've seen grow up from birth. Trans poisons everything it touches. It destroys families, it destroys children, it destroys society. I am so sorry for your family.

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It seems so important that we find a new non-prejudiced language to address these issues from human to human. The very notice, that someone's appearance seems to say no to talking openly and honestly, like with a trusted friend or a fellow stranger on those special magical moments that the world just seems to be working in our favour.

You would have talked with empathy, sharing your thoughts and feelings, but instead you get the feeling, that you may not talk and must pretend. Mark this notion, it tells all about the others persons isolation.

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Deer in headlights look is a better description. A conservative christian church, we were looking for solid ground to stand on for our beliefs and just got very little, seemed to catch the pastor off guard. A different church we go to offered much better footing for us. Plus it was several years ago so my memory is not great on it.

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thank you for being sensitive to your sister. My sibling sees me as just too conservative, even though I ache for the trouble my son is putting himself into. He hasn't spoke to me in nearly 2 years,.

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Thank you for taking notice and realizing that this is a crisis. We need more people like you, who haven't been directly impacted, to help us fight the monster that is trying to destroy our children. We ARE living in a dystopian society.

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