I’m a father with a trans identified daughter and I have stories to tell. Recently I launched a Substack to tell these stories: dentonyogacarter.substack.com My goal is to give an honest account of my experiences, from a father’s perspective, many of the parent stories out there in the ether are from the perspective of mothers. I hope that my contributions help to prompt more fathers to make their voices heard too. We might be more reluctant to speak out, but us fathers care about our children, and it’s time for us to join the fight.
Wow, I almost missed your entry in my email. I'm definitely going to be reading your substack. Our son has started a similar path (he's 16). ROGD is what I'm calling it. So much of what you said resonates.
It's sad to read what has happened to your family. I hope you succeed in engaging more men on the issue and that you can re connect with your daughter one day. 🍃
I applaud you for sharing this journey…obviously, those who have turned their backs on you don’t know the Lord…you don’t condone this behavior but you love your daughter and want to have a relationship with her…that may not be possible…she has bought into the lie and may never open the door to you again…but pray…things do change over time. Blessings
Keep trying to get in touch with her and leave her open invitations. If she doesn’t accept one, she might accept the next or the next, etc. I could tell you things that you already know, just to vent. I’m past that stage. Past grief. I insert myself into my daughter’s life. She has a pattern of not responding and then coming back and apologizing for not responding. You have a different situation, however, deep down your daughter probably knows that her parents loved/love her. Hopefully, in the future she will come back. Try not to have any barriers to make it difficult. No grudges. In the meantime, keep speaking up and working to get these “groomers” away from other children. You will lose “friends” and more. But we all must stand up and say no more- for the sake of the other innocents out there. This isn’t easy. It’s a nightmare. Last words: I took a leap of faith and started praying the rosary every night for my daughter to come home. Not long afterwards, she moved back to our area and she and her friend stayed with us until they found an apartment. I took care of them both, loved them both. So, I recommend prayer. May God bless you and your family.
"The path of her transition was a steep and rapid trajectory from curiosity and interest, to immersion and rumination, via influencing, to indoctrination, and finally to full-on radicalization."
That is exactly right. I agree with everything you say.
As a step - GI and affirmation must be taken out of the schools with firm laws. It is total grooming.
You've expressed so much of what I feel as a grandmother trying to process the tragedy of my only grandson announcing he is "non-binary", changing his name legally to gender-neutral, and immersing himself this unreal lifestyle. The heartbreak is unbelievably painful. Thank you so very much for speaking up.
It must be so incredibly difficult to go through this as a father who really does love and care for their child. You don’t hate her, and you don’t wish her harm. It’s disingenuous for anyone reading your words to think you have anything but love for your child. It’s a mind control cult. Speaking out is so important and hopefully can help other parents. I hope one day soon your daughter realizes she has parents who truly love and care about her.
Your story is nearly exactly our story - except with a boy. Four years estranged. Our history erased. Lost friends. Lost family. I'm so traumatized by the constant gaslighting I've come to think of it as a psychological rape.
I applaud your strength and effort to speak out and fight back. Sadly, I think the only way the tide turns is with detransitioners. They are the only ones with standing.
Thank you for writing this. My family have been caught up in this, social transition of 12 yr old by school in secret. ROGD, came out of nowhere. The shock and disbelief when you tell the story to family and friends. I feel crazy telling them what has happened and when they don't respond with the level of outrage I know it deserves I am driven to try again, and feel crazier and crazier with each attempt, I know I am speaking truth but nobody seems to be waking up in a hurry and I am in a big hurry for the woke to wake up.
You’re not alone. My story is heartbreaking too. 💔
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Wow, I almost missed your entry in my email. I'm definitely going to be reading your substack. Our son has started a similar path (he's 16). ROGD is what I'm calling it. So much of what you said resonates.
Good luck dad.
It's sad to read what has happened to your family. I hope you succeed in engaging more men on the issue and that you can re connect with your daughter one day. 🍃
I applaud you for sharing this journey…obviously, those who have turned their backs on you don’t know the Lord…you don’t condone this behavior but you love your daughter and want to have a relationship with her…that may not be possible…she has bought into the lie and may never open the door to you again…but pray…things do change over time. Blessings
Keep trying to get in touch with her and leave her open invitations. If she doesn’t accept one, she might accept the next or the next, etc. I could tell you things that you already know, just to vent. I’m past that stage. Past grief. I insert myself into my daughter’s life. She has a pattern of not responding and then coming back and apologizing for not responding. You have a different situation, however, deep down your daughter probably knows that her parents loved/love her. Hopefully, in the future she will come back. Try not to have any barriers to make it difficult. No grudges. In the meantime, keep speaking up and working to get these “groomers” away from other children. You will lose “friends” and more. But we all must stand up and say no more- for the sake of the other innocents out there. This isn’t easy. It’s a nightmare. Last words: I took a leap of faith and started praying the rosary every night for my daughter to come home. Not long afterwards, she moved back to our area and she and her friend stayed with us until they found an apartment. I took care of them both, loved them both. So, I recommend prayer. May God bless you and your family.
Some of the most unethical surgeons need to go to prison. That might make a few kids wake up.
"The path of her transition was a steep and rapid trajectory from curiosity and interest, to immersion and rumination, via influencing, to indoctrination, and finally to full-on radicalization."
That is exactly right. I agree with everything you say.
As a step - GI and affirmation must be taken out of the schools with firm laws. It is total grooming.
You've expressed so much of what I feel as a grandmother trying to process the tragedy of my only grandson announcing he is "non-binary", changing his name legally to gender-neutral, and immersing himself this unreal lifestyle. The heartbreak is unbelievably painful. Thank you so very much for speaking up.
It must be so incredibly difficult to go through this as a father who really does love and care for their child. You don’t hate her, and you don’t wish her harm. It’s disingenuous for anyone reading your words to think you have anything but love for your child. It’s a mind control cult. Speaking out is so important and hopefully can help other parents. I hope one day soon your daughter realizes she has parents who truly love and care about her.
Your story is nearly exactly our story - except with a boy. Four years estranged. Our history erased. Lost friends. Lost family. I'm so traumatized by the constant gaslighting I've come to think of it as a psychological rape.
I applaud your strength and effort to speak out and fight back. Sadly, I think the only way the tide turns is with detransitioners. They are the only ones with standing.
Thanks for writing that. We need more men and dads in this fight.
Seems to me that the crippled thinking and rejection of science and reality has its roots in the religious rejection of reason and emphasis on faith.
Did you encourage religion? Can you honestly and fearlessly see the connection?
Our children are built by us, our schools, our media. We get what we built.
Yes, my family has battled this. We're critical thinkers, atheists. We won.
And what will be sadder will be all the detransitions as time goes by.
Sounds like it's time for the legal system to smack the groomers and influencers.
Thank you for writing this. My family have been caught up in this, social transition of 12 yr old by school in secret. ROGD, came out of nowhere. The shock and disbelief when you tell the story to family and friends. I feel crazy telling them what has happened and when they don't respond with the level of outrage I know it deserves I am driven to try again, and feel crazier and crazier with each attempt, I know I am speaking truth but nobody seems to be waking up in a hurry and I am in a big hurry for the woke to wake up.